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I had a friend. Had a friend. Had.
Now the friend is a foe, or at least I feel like I'm being treated as a foe. I'm not invited to go out with the group when she's part of the entourage, even to visit an ill friend.
We've gone from being very animated hellos and chats to single-word responses, and now to absolute silence.
My fault? I like someone. And the friend thinks that I'm making a huge mistake by doing so. And does the friend tell me about the reservations? Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.
Tell everyone else but me. Everyone else. Italy's not that far. Tell all and sundry but me.
Wait... did I use the word friend? Isn't a friend supposed to help?
Defined by The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language (4th edition, 2000):
A person whom one knows, likes & trusts.
A person whom one knows: an acquaintance.
A person with whom one is allied in a struggle or cause: a comrade.
One who supports, sympthatises with, or patronises a group, cause, or movement.
I knew this friend, I liked this friend, I trusted this friend.
We were acquainted, yes.
We were allied in a struggle and a cause. This friend was indeed a comrade.
We supported each other, we symphatised at each's problems.
Ohh... I get it. Past tense. It's passed.
I wrote a note to this friend once of a saying I read somewhere: "A true friend walks in when the whole world walks out".
I wonder why the friend chose to walk out. If I did something wrong by liking someone, then tell me. We were comrades. Acquaintances.
Actually, I tried to reason with this friend some 3 weeks ago. Then for 2 weeks it remained one-worded responses. Then I gave up trying.
Am I proud of my current stand on the issue? No. I could be a big man if I approach the friend (again) to clear the air (again). I could be a nice man if I let my feelings of being left out and sidelined be disregarded, and continue to befriend the friend.
But I am not doing so.
So kill me already.
I had a friend. Had a friend. Had.
Now the friend is a foe, or at least I feel like I'm being treated as a foe. I'm not invited to go out with the group when she's part of the entourage, even to visit an ill friend.
We've gone from being very animated hellos and chats to single-word responses, and now to absolute silence.
My fault? I like someone. And the friend thinks that I'm making a huge mistake by doing so. And does the friend tell me about the reservations? Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.
Tell everyone else but me. Everyone else. Italy's not that far. Tell all and sundry but me.
Wait... did I use the word friend? Isn't a friend supposed to help?
Defined by The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language (4th edition, 2000):
A person whom one knows, likes & trusts.
A person whom one knows: an acquaintance.
A person with whom one is allied in a struggle or cause: a comrade.
One who supports, sympthatises with, or patronises a group, cause, or movement.
I knew this friend, I liked this friend, I trusted this friend.
We were acquainted, yes.
We were allied in a struggle and a cause. This friend was indeed a comrade.
We supported each other, we symphatised at each's problems.
Ohh... I get it. Past tense. It's passed.
I wrote a note to this friend once of a saying I read somewhere: "A true friend walks in when the whole world walks out".
I wonder why the friend chose to walk out. If I did something wrong by liking someone, then tell me. We were comrades. Acquaintances.
Actually, I tried to reason with this friend some 3 weeks ago. Then for 2 weeks it remained one-worded responses. Then I gave up trying.
Am I proud of my current stand on the issue? No. I could be a big man if I approach the friend (again) to clear the air (again). I could be a nice man if I let my feelings of being left out and sidelined be disregarded, and continue to befriend the friend.
But I am not doing so.
So kill me already.
Comments
thank you for giving me a fighting chance to make it in a new place.
im grateful that you think im worth your friendship. im sorry its costing you your friendship with another. im unhappy this has all turned out to be one huge misunderstanding.
sigh.
why cant we ALL just get along?
no, that's not right, my primary school friends, I found after some 20 odd years later, were the best, they were responsible for teaching me the beauty of friendship.. we all accepted each other without putting a wager on or expecting something material or hoping for any elevation in status out of that friendship..
sorry, I'm waffling and drifting away. but my point is, friends like that, they're never your friend to begin with, friends look out for you, not take every opportunity to get you!
the hurt is due to the fact that, people like us, we cherish friendship.. and we cannot accept that one whom we regard as a friend has done that to us, cos, on our part, we'd never think of doing that to another. but you have to come to the realisation, that just because you're willing to give the world, there'll always be those who only expect you to do so, because it's just expected from the likes of us. The thing is, don't expect them to be reciprocal, the effort may just be wasted! if reciprocity takes place, hold on to that friend, and to him/her, you offer the world. Until then.. don't.