crossroad
Main Entry: cross·road
Pronunciation: \ˈkrȯs-ˌrōd also -ˈrōd\
Function: noun
Date: 1686
1: a road that crosses a main road or runs cross-country between main roads
2 usually plural but singular or plural in construction a: the place of intersection of two or more roads b (1): a small community located at such a crossroads (2): a central meeting place c: a crucial point especially where a decision must be made
- from Meriam-Webster's Online Dictionary
What do you do when you're at a crossroad?
No, this is not like the "why-did-the-chicken-cross-the-road" question, although I can give you the answer to that too. :) The short answer is to decide where to go! Duh! But more often than not, such questions are asked when one needs to make a decision. Much like the political scene in Malaysia today. Some people have to start making major decisions because some people have not just reached a crossroad, but multiple crossroads! Eh... I digress...
So if you, dear reader are at a crossroad, here's some advice.
(NOTE: I BELIEVE THAT ADVICE IS EXACTLY THAT: ADVICE. NO ONE IS PRESSURED TO TAKE ADVICE AND PRACTICE IT.)
You know what the best thing about reaching a crossroad is? Well, for one, you're there! Which is more than what others can claim. It means that you have traveled a fair distance and, if you're the type that has a focus on the journey and not just the destination, chances are you'd have enough resources to make a good and informed decision.
Most of us won't make a decision because we fear failure, or in some cases, fear that the decision we make will make us seem like a failure. Fair concern. Humans by nature is in the business of the pursuit of pleasure and the avoidance of pain. Failure according to some of us is painful.
We're so obsessed with the idea of success that failure looks like its the end of it all. Yet we forget that one only fails when one stops trying. I doubt the great inventors of our time ever stopped trying; otherwise they won't be great would they?
I wouldn't want to make it sound as if decision making is a simple process. Far from it. But what I'd like to impress upon readers is that if we take fear out of the equation, it'd be much simpler.
Think about it: you fear people will judge you on one call? If the person does then the person is not utilising resources well (in a corporate scenario), or just not worth it (in a relationship scenario).
Yes, decision making is a complex process. You need information, you need risk evaluation, you need scenario analysis. But one thing's for sure, if you don't make a decision, then you're stuck where you are.
Which may be a good or a bad thing, but you wouldn't be at the crossroad if you weren't meant to be.
So, chin up, assess the options, make the call, and stand by it. Because guess what? No sooner have you turned the corner will another one turn up? You can bet your life on that!
Cheers all.
Picture credit: http://cassandrapages.typepad.com/the_cassandra_pages/place/index.html
Main Entry: cross·road
Pronunciation: \ˈkrȯs-ˌrōd also -ˈrōd\
Function: noun
Date: 1686
1: a road that crosses a main road or runs cross-country between main roads
2 usually plural but singular or plural in construction a: the place of intersection of two or more roads b (1): a small community located at such a crossroads (2): a central meeting place c: a crucial point especially where a decision must be made
- from Meriam-Webster's Online Dictionary
What do you do when you're at a crossroad?
No, this is not like the "why-did-the-chicken-cross-the-road" question, although I can give you the answer to that too. :) The short answer is to decide where to go! Duh! But more often than not, such questions are asked when one needs to make a decision. Much like the political scene in Malaysia today. Some people have to start making major decisions because some people have not just reached a crossroad, but multiple crossroads! Eh... I digress...
So if you, dear reader are at a crossroad, here's some advice. (NOTE: I BELIEVE THAT ADVICE IS EXACTLY THAT: ADVICE. NO ONE IS PRESSURED TO TAKE ADVICE AND PRACTICE IT.)
You know what the best thing about reaching a crossroad is? Well, for one, you're there! Which is more than what others can claim. It means that you have traveled a fair distance and, if you're the type that has a focus on the journey and not just the destination, chances are you'd have enough resources to make a good and informed decision.
Most of us won't make a decision because we fear failure, or in some cases, fear that the decision we make will make us seem like a failure. Fair concern. Humans by nature is in the business of the pursuit of pleasure and the avoidance of pain. Failure according to some of us is painful.
We're so obsessed with the idea of success that failure looks like its the end of it all. Yet we forget that one only fails when one stops trying. I doubt the great inventors of our time ever stopped trying; otherwise they won't be great would they?
I wouldn't want to make it sound as if decision making is a simple process. Far from it. But what I'd like to impress upon readers is that if we take fear out of the equation, it'd be much simpler.
Think about it: you fear people will judge you on one call? If the person does then the person is not utilising resources well (in a corporate scenario), or just not worth it (in a relationship scenario).
Yes, decision making is a complex process. You need information, you need risk evaluation, you need scenario analysis. But one thing's for sure, if you don't make a decision, then you're stuck where you are.
Which may be a good or a bad thing, but you wouldn't be at the crossroad if you weren't meant to be.
So, chin up, assess the options, make the call, and stand by it. Because guess what? No sooner have you turned the corner will another one turn up? You can bet your life on that!
Cheers all.
Picture credit: http://cassandrapages.typepad.com/the_cassandra_pages/place/index.html
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